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national gift preferences survey  (excerpted from Present Perfect)


There are gift-giving occasions literally every day, and we all want to be able to give—and receive—the perfect gift. But how? There are those on our lists we don't know well enough, already have everything, are too young, or are just plain too picky! So to discover what gift-getters really want—and from whom—we commissioned a poll by Momentum Research. More than 1,000 American adults were asked to rate gifts (on a scale of 1 to 5, one being the least preferred, five being the most preferred) from each of 17 specific categories. Respondents were then asked how much they prefer receiving the same gifts from each of six hypothetical gift givers. The following are highlights from the survey.  

gift preferences by gender

gift preferences by marital status

gift preferences by income

gift preferences by education

gifts from significant others

gifts from parents

gifts from grown children

gifts from siblings and close friends

gifts from employers

gifts from coworkers and business associates

gifts for guys and gals

Gifts of travel, audio/video equipment, and money are given high scores by both men and women—across all demographics and regardless of the giver. But that is where the similarities end when it comes to the gift preferences of men and women. In general, men prefer gifts that are playful and practical (computer software, tools, sports equipment). Women, on the other hand, give the highest marks to gifts that are beautiful, memorable, and personal (Flowers or plants, photographs, jewelry, clothing, and fragrance).

  • Money, That's What I Want. Men want money, and they don't care from whom it comes. Gifts of money receive the highest overall score from men (3.83) and top the lists of preferred gifts from all givers except significant others (where it comes in an insignificant four one-hundredths behind clothing and two one-hundredths behind audio/video equipment).

  • Cash Options. Cash gifts notwithstanding, men prefer gifts of audio/video equipment (3.63), travel (3.61), tools (3.59), sports equipment (3.59), and computer software (3.57).

  • Good-bye Girls. Women want travel, as much as—or more than—men want money. Overall, women give gifts of travel a score of 4.09. The highest score is for gifts of travel from significant others (4.40). The lowest score is for travel gifts from grown children (3.56).

  • Bouquets Okay. Flowers or plants are probably the "safest" gifts to women without respect to relationship. Women give high scores to flowers or plants from every giver, and the range between high and low scores is fairly narrow (4.22 from significant others and 3.77 from employers).

  • Runners Up. Along with gifts of travel and flowers, money (3.92) and audio video equipment (3.84) round out women's top gift preferences.

  • Passive Aggressive. Men respond with relative indifference to various "types" of gifts while women show a broad range of interest. Overall, women's preference scores for gifts range from very low (2.20) to very high (4.09) while men's scores fall within a very narrow range (3.04 to 3.83).

  • Personal Space. The relationship of the giver to the recipient has greater impact on women's gift preferences than on men's gift preferences. For each of the six giver categories, the range (high score minus low score) of women's preferences across the 17 gift categories is typically double the range of men's preferences.

  • Too Close for Comfort. The more distant the relationship between the recipient and the giver, the lower the preference for such personal gifts as clothing, jewelry, and fragrance. This holds true for both men and women and is most dramatically illustrated through preferences for gifts of clothing. Women's scores for gifts of clothing from significant others and from employers are 4.29 and 2.20, respectively. Men's scores for gifts of clothing range from 3.86 (from significant others) to 2.94 (from employers).  

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i do, i don't

Some very interesting observations might be made based on the gift preferences of married versus non-married men and women. Draw your own conclusions, but to us it looks as though non-married women are buckling down to work while their male counterparts are looking for a good time.

  • Where Have all the flowers Gone? Single men give higher scores to gifts of flowers from their significant other (3.23) than do married men (3.07).

  • No More Fun and Games. Divorced women score gifts of audio/video equipment and games significantly lower than do married women, regardless of the giver. For example, as gifts from a sibling or close friend, married women give audio/video equipment and games scores of 4.07 and 3.02, respectively, while divorced women give them scores of 3.27 and 2.03, respectively.

  • Look Who Wants to Play. Divorced men, on the other hand, score gifts of audio/video equipment and games significantly higher than do married men, in general. For example, as gifts from coworkers or business associates, married men give audio/video equipment and games scores of 3.26 and 3.14, respectively, while divorced men give them scores of 3.86 and 3.34, respectively.

  • Gold Standard. Divorced men give higher scores to gifts of jewelry than do single and married men. From a sibling or close friend, gifts of jewelry receive scores of 3.86 (divorced males), 3.63 (single males), and 2.81 (married males). From grown children, gifts of jewelry receive scores of 3.57 (divorced males), 3.07 (single males), and 2.72 (married males). And from an employer, gifts of jewelry receive scores of 3.18 (divorced males), 2.80 (single males), and 2.68 (married males).

  • Book It. Divorced men and women give higher scores to gifts of books than do married men and women. As gifts from parents, for example, books receive scores of 3.95 (divorced males), 3.21 (married males), 3.94 (divorced females) and 3.27 (married females).

  • Doesn't it Make Scents? Married men and women give lower scores to gifts of fragrance than do divorced men and women. From a sibling or close friend, gifts of fragrance receive scores 2.89 and 3.43 from married men and women respectively, and 3.05 and 3.79 from divorced men and women, respectively.

  • Another Bite? Divorced women seem to have lost their appetites while divorced men are hungrier than others for gifts of food. From a coworker or business associate, gifts of food or candy fall from 3.90 (single women) and 3.43 (married women) to a low 2.45 (divorced women). From the same givers, gifts of food or candy rise from 2.96 (single men) and 3.08 (married men) to a high 3.38 (divorced men).

  • Is There a Mouse in the House? Single and divorced women give much higher scores to gifts of computer software than do married women—regardless of the giver. From a parent, women give gifts of computer software scores of 3.58 (divorced women), 3.41 (single women), and 2.72 (married women). From an employer, women give the same gifts scores of 3.30 (divorced women), 3.36 (single women), and 2.76 (married women).

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matters of net worth

Women become more discriminating gift recipients as household income rises, while men become more aloof. The range between women's high and low scores across the 17 gift categories widens with income (from 1.75 for women in households with income of less than $20,000, to 2.43 for women in households with income in excess of $50,000). The opposite is true for men. The range between men's high and low scores across the 17 gift categories is more than three times greater for men in households with income of less than $20,000 than for men in households with income in excess of $50,000.

  • Money Matters. Money received high scores across all demographics. Even men (3.47) and women (4.15) in households with incomes in excess of $50,000 give relatively high marks to gifts of money.

  • Clothes Minded. Men in households with incomes of $40,000 to $49,999 give higher marks to gifts of clothing than do men in other income brackets. These men give gifts of clothing scores of 3.90 (from significant others), 3.44 (from parents and grown children), and 3.19 (from siblings and close friends).

  • The Price of Gold is Up. Preferences for gifts of jewelry from a significant other rise with income—nine out of 10 women in households with incomes over $75,000 a year give jewelry from their significant other a score of 5.

  • The Way to a Man's Heart. Men in households with incomes of $40,000 to $49,999 give higher marks to gifts of food or candy than do men in other income brackets. These men give gifts of food or candy scores of 3.68 (from significant others), 3.63 (from siblings and close friends), and 3.41 (from coworkers and business associates).

  • How Low Can They Go? Without exception, men in households with incomes of less than $20,000 give lower scores than do men in any other income bracket to gifts of flowers or plants, food or candy, fragrance, home furnishings, kitchen appliances, and magazines.

  • Sounds Good. While gifts of audio/video equipment score high marks across all income brackets, they receive especially high marks from men (up to 4.00 from a significant other) and women (up to 4.49 from a grown child) in households with incomes of less than $30,000.

  • Lost Luster. Preferences for gifts of jewelry are significantly lower among women in households with incomes of $40,000 to $49,999. This holds true regardless of the giver. Women in general give jewelry scores of 4.47 (from significant others) 3.90 (from parents), 3.83 (from grown children) and 3.63 (from close friends and siblings). Women in households with incomes of $40,000 to $49,999 give jewelry scores of 3.47 (from significant others), 3.38 (from parents), 3.13 (from grown children), and 2.90 (from close friends and siblings).

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the more you know

Preferences for gifts of computer software, audio/video equipment, books, and magazines are more influenced by education than are preferences for gifts from other categories.

  • High Tech Tools and Toys. Not surprisingly, male vocational school graduates give the highest marks to gifts of audio/video equipment. Scores (by giver) are 4.00 (employer), 4.07 (sibling/close friend), 4.12 (parents), 4.30 (grown child), 4.35 (coworker/business associate), and 4.39 (significant other). Male vocational school grads also give higher scores to gifts of computer software and accessories than do men with other education.

  • Hitting the Books. Women's preferences for books rise with education. Female high school graduates score gifts of books from 3.24 (from coworkers/business associates) to 3.51 (from siblings/close friends). Female postgraduates score gifts of books from 3.47 (from employers) to 4.13 (from siblings/close friends).

  • Well Read. Men with trade school educations give higher marks to gifts of books and gifts of magazines than do men with high school, college, even postgraduate educations. For example, as gifts from siblings or close friends, men give books scores of 3.15 (high school grads), 3.16 (college grads), 3.41 (post grads), and 4.30 (trade school grads).

  • Wanna Play? Men with high school educations give gifts of games higher marks than do men with post high school education. From a sibling or close friend, men give gifts of games 4.00 (high school graduates), 3.89 (trade school graduates), 3.16 (college graduates), and 3.03 (some college).

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gifts from significant others

Men and women place equally high value on gifts from their significant others. But what is wanted—and how much it is enjoyed—splits sharply along gender lines. Women's scores for gifts from significant others range from very low (2.25) to very high (4.47) while men's scores for gifts from significant others fall within a very narrow range (3.25 to 3.86).

  • Up Close and Personal. Women prefer personal gifts from their significant others, giving the highest scores to jewelry (4.47), travel (4.40), clothing (4.29), and flowers (4.22).

  • Gentlemen Prefer . . . . Men prefer practical and playful gifts from their significant others, giving high marks to clothing (3.86), audio/video equipment (3.84), money (3.82), and tools (3.77).

  • Diamonds are a Girl's Best Friend. On a scale of 1 to 5, three in four women give gifts of jewelry from their significant other the top rating of 5. Single women rank gifts of jewelry from their significant other higher than do married women (4.75 and 4.31, respectively).

  • Easy to Please. Twenty-five- to 34-year-old men are the easiest to please, scoring a whopping 11 out of 17 categories of gifts from their significant others above 4.0. On the other hand, men 35 to 54 years old and men over 65 have a cooler response to gifts from their significant others, scoring all 17 categories below a 4.00.

  • Clothes Call. Women's preferences for gifts of clothing from their significant others peak between the ages of 35 and 44 (4.48). Married women rank gifts of clothing from their significant others slightly higher than do single women (4.36 and 4.27, respectively).

  • Clothes Make the (Single) Man. Single men give gifts of clothing from their significant others a higher score than do married men (4.27 and 3.79).

  • Take me Away. Four in five women give gifts of travel from their significant others a score of 4 or better. Only 3 percent give it a score of 1, making it the least least-preferred gift from their significant others.

  • Let's Play. Travel, computer software, and games from significant others receive exceptionally high marks from 25- to 34-year-old men (4.53, 4.50, and 4.45, respectively) while receiving only moderate scores from men in general (3.86, 3.66, and 3.59, respectively).

  • Flower Power. Flowers or plants are very well received by women across all demographics, with one—dare we say suspicious—exception. Women 45 to 54 years old give flowers from their significant others a less-than-enthusiastic score of 3.81. Thirteen percent of women in this age demographic give flowers from significant others a score of one! We have our own theory about this mid-life crisis. What do you think?

  • Send me No Flowers. Although in some circles flowers from a significant other are considered a rather progressive gift to men, they get a green thumbs down (2.68) from men over 65 years old.

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gifts from parents

Next to gifts from significant others, both men and women place the highest value on gifts from parents. On average, travel (4.34), money (4.12), and photographs (4.01) are the gifts women most prefer from their parents while men prefer gifts of money (3.89), sports equipment (3.73), and tools (3.71). However, preferences change based on demographics.

  • Easy to Please. Parents should have the easiest time gift shopping for their 18- to 24-year-old daughters. They score parental gifts from every one of the 17 gift categories higher than do women in general.

  • Well Above Average. For 16 of the 17 categories, 25- to 34-year-old men give higher scores to gifts from parents than do men in general.

  • All the Comforts of Home. Preferences for parental gifts of home furnishings are higher among divorced men (4.11) and women (4.58) than among single men (3.43) and women (4.18) or married men (3.23) and women (3.61).

  • Money Matters. Parental gifts of money receive lower scores from married men (3.73) and women (3.96) than from non-married (single, divorced, separated, widowed) men (3.85) and women (4.46).

  • Diminishing Returns. Men's preferences for parental gifts of money decline with income and education. Based on education, men give gifts of money from their parents scores of 4.32 (high school graduates), 4.19 (trade school graduates), 3.97 (some college), and 3.28 (college graduates). Women's preferences for parental gifts of money show no such decline.

  • A Cut Above. While parental gifts of clothing receive an average score of 3.33 from all men, they get a whopping 4.03 from 18- to 24-year-old males.

  • Singled Out. Single women give significantly higher scores to parental gifts of flowers or plants (4.09), clothing (4.08), jewelry (4.15), kitchen appliances (4.05), and fragrance (3.91) than do women in general.

  • Scent of a Woman. Women's preferences for parental gifts of fragrance decline with income. Women give gifts of fragrance from their parents scores of 3.88 (under $20,000), 3.67 ($20,000 to $29,999), 3.66 ($30,000 to $39,999), 3.22 ($40,000 to $49,999), and 3.15 ($50,000 and over).

  • Closing the Book. Women's preferences for parental gifts of books decline in the same manner as do gifts of fragrance—relative to income.

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gifts from grown children

Perhaps it's the result of being on the receiving end of too many ill-chosen ties and cheap cologne, but in many cases, men rank gifts from grown children lower than gifts from other givers. On the other hand, gifts from grown children rival those from other givers nearest and dearest to mom.

  • Improving with Age. Women's preferences for gifts of jewelry, clothing, money, and books from their grown children rise with age. For example, scores for gifts of jewelry from a grown child are 3.55 (ages 35 to 44), 3.74 (ages 45 to 54), 3.86 (ages 55 to 64), and 4.00 (ages 65 and above).

  • Yum, Yum. Divorced men give significantly higher marks to gifts of food or candy from a grown child than do married men (3.63 and 3.00, respectively).

  • Picture This. Nine out of 10 women age 65 and above give gifts of photographs from their children a score of 4 or 5.

  • Dressing Down. Divorced men give much lower marks to gifts of clothing from grown children than do married men (2.36 and 3.34, respectively).

  • No Time to Play? Divorced women give significantly lower scores to gifts of leisure from their grown children than do married and single women: Audio/video equipment (3.24), travel (3.30), games (1.94), sports equipment (1.91), magazines (1.76).

  • If You Insist. On average, grown children are the givers from which both men and women least prefer to receive gifts of money—although gifts of money from grown children receive good marks (3.66 from women and 3.69 from men).

  • Interest Rates are Up. Fifty-five- to 64-year-old women give gifts of money from a grown child an uncommonly high score of 4.79.

  • On the Downside. Men's preferences for gifts of travel, computer software, and tools from grown children decline with education.

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gifts from siblings and close friends

It's true that you can choose your friends but not your family. But gift giving is inevitable when it comes to either. The good news is that siblings and close friends are hard to disappoint.

  • No Middle Ground. Men with household incomes of less than $20,000 make no bones about gift preferences from their siblings and close friends. Gifts of travel (4.20) and money (4.17) are distant leaders while 10 of 17 gift categories received scores of 2.80 or lower.

  • Higher Education. As with gifts from grown children, men's preferences for gifts of money, travel, and computer software from siblings and close friends decline with education.

  • On the Up and Up. Divorced men give significantly higher scores to the following gifts from their siblings and close friends than do married men: computer software (3.84 vs. 3.38), magazines (3.77 vs. 3.20), books (3.63 vs. 2.99), home furnishings (3.80 vs. 3.09), photos (3.41 vs. 2.99), jewelry (3.86 vs. 2.81), and flowers or plants (3.57 vs. 2.97).

  • Less for More. Women's gift preferences for flowers or plants and food or candy from siblings and close friends decline with income—from 4.19 (less than $20,000) to 3.86 ($50,000 and over) for flowers or plants, and from 3.89 (less than $20,000) to 3.21 ($50,000 and over) for food or candy.

  • See Ya Later. Women's preference scores for gifts of travel from siblings and close friends ascend with age—from 3.56 (ages 25 to 34) to 4.75 (ages 55 and older).

  • Rising to New Heights. Divorced women give much higher scores to the following gifts from their siblings and close friends than do married women: clothing (4.33 vs. 3.68), money (4.52 vs. 3.52), photographs/photo albums (4.18 vs. 3.55), jewelry (4.06 vs. 3.47), home furnishings (4.27 vs. 3.40), and computer software (3.27 vs. 2.74).

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gifts from employers

Overall, men and women score gifts from employers lower than gifts from most other givers. Travel and money top the list of gifts men and women prefer most from their employers. At the bottom of the list are such personal items as clothing, fragrance, and photographs.

  • High Wages. Money is the gift men and women prefer most from their employers, scoring it at 3.85 and 4.30 respectively.

  • Narrow Minded? Men are as indifferent to gifts from their employers as they are to gifts from other givers. Men's scores for gifts from their employers fall within a very narrow range (2.92 to 3.85).

  • I am Woman. Women are very adamant about what they want—and don't want—from their employers. Women's scores for gifts from their employers span a broad range (from 2.04 to 4.30). This is the widest range in gift preferences scores for any giver category.

  • No Dress Code. Unless they're married to the boss, women do not want gifts of clothing from their employers. To illustrate, women ages 35 to 44 years old give gifts of clothing from their significant others high marks (4.48) while giving gifts of clothing from their employers a measly 1.87.

  • Eight Thumbs Down. As for gifts from their employers, women give eight of the 17 gift categories a score of 2.77 or less. Men do not give any gifts from their employers a score of less than 2.92.

  • Let's Not Get Personal. Women give such personal items as fragrance (2.73), clothing (2.20), and photographs (2.44) lower marks as gifts from employers than as gifts from any other givers. Men also rank these personal items at the bottom of the list of gifts from employers, but not punishingly so.

  • Cash and Dash. Gifts of money and travel make the top three list of most-preferred gifts from an employer for both men and women.

  • Staying Close to Home. Divorced women give significantly higher scores to gifts of cash from their employers (4.70) and significantly lower scores to gifts of travel from their employers (3.12) than do women in general (4.30 for money and 4.05 for travel).

  • Money Markets. Men's preferences for gifts of money from an employer decline slightly with income—with scores of 4.24 (under $20,000), 4.18 ($20,000 to $29,999), 3.82 ($30,000 to $39,999), 3.58 ($40,000 to $49,999), and 3.55 (over $50,000). Women's preference for gifts of money from an employer show no such decline with income.

  • If You Please. The most difficult to please employees are women between the ages of 35 and 44. Only money and travel score well (4.62 and 3.98 respectively) while 11 of 17 categories score 2.53 or lower.

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gifts from coworkers and business associates

Givers beware. Selecting gifts for coworkers and business associates can be risky business indeed. Items that make great gifts for family and friends might be too personal in the workplace. The best bets? Travel and money.

  • Going Places. Gifts of travel top the list of gifts women prefer most from coworkers and business associates (4.01) and receive especially high marks from 18- to 24-year-old women.

  • Small Change. Men give virtually the same scores to gifts of money from employers (3.85) and gifts of money from coworkers and business associates (3.83). Women score gifts of money from employers (4.30) well above gifts of money from coworkers and business associates (3.74).

  • Not Much Cents. Women in the lowest income bracket (under $20,000) give gifts of money from a coworker a lower score (3.65) than do women in all other income brackets.

  • Declining Balance. Men's preferences for gifts of money from coworkers or business associates decline with income. Such gifts receive scores of 4.39 (under $20,000), 3.89 ($20,000 to $29,999), 3.73 ($30,000 to $39,999), 3.57 ($40,000 to $49,999), and 3.50 (over $50,000 ).

  • Computer Smarts. Men's preferences for gifts of computer software from coworkers and business associates decline with education. Scores for these gifts range from 4.14 (high school graduates) to 3.25 (college graduates).

  • Traveling' On. Men's scores for gifts of travel from coworkers and business associates also decline with education, and range from 4.08 (high school graduates) to 3.26 (college grads).

  • If the Clothes Don't Fit . . . . Women give higher marks to gifts of clothing from coworkers and business associates (2.57) than to the same gifts from employers (2.20), though neither scores well.  

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